A good book I know that’s filled with so much wisdom says,
“A soft answer turns away wrath”.
Being polite and well – mannered has often been overlooked in today’s society. When politeness is not overlooked, it is sadly limited to a list of words.
How often have you been on a queue only to be shouted at to hurry along? How often have you been brushed past or stepped on along the street without an apology?
Simple mistakes that happen often one would say. Nevertheless, how did these actions make you feel? Irritated, angered, probably enough to transfer aggression to someone else or totally spoil your mood all day.
To think that all these unhealthy feelings could have been prevented or diminished by a simple and heartfelt apology. While still speaking about offering genuine apologies, I would like to mention that being polite just as well involves accepting apologies. I strongly believe that only one who genuinely gives apologies can understand and genuinely accept apologies.
Seeing as one is likely to be offended or offend another on a daily basis, a child’s training would be incomplete without training on the importance of politeness.
I have experienced the small as well as great dividends of being polite, from a ‘thank you’ in return to a polite action, to the knowledge that a simple greeting or apology could literally save one’s life and prevent embarrassing situations.
So here are some tips that may help you in training a child to be polite.
- Be the example. The child is as well a human being with feelings, be polite to him or her.
- Explain why children need to be polite and be consistent in making them give polite remarks such as ‘ I am sorry’ and ‘Thank you’
- Let children know that being polite means more than saying a group of words, it involves other unspoken actions.
- Let children know it is important to accept polite gestures.
- Reward your children’s polite gestures as often as you can.